Green Eyed Monster – Jealousy.
Jealousy, it really is one of the ugliest emotions that one can feel and exhibit. I’ve never particularly resonated with this emotion, and think it’s a poisonous one to entertain.
I often hear people make comments like “He makes way too much money” or “She’s so lucky. It’s not fair, why haven’t I got X Y Z?”. Which of course, is jealousy based around a feeling of lack within one’s own life.
Then there is what I call ‘possessive’ jealousy, where one person thinks they have ownership over another person. Again, this comes back to an inadequacy within ones-self – a deep seated insecurity caused from a lack of self-acceptance.
I think we’ve all experienced the emotion of jealousy at one point or another in our lives, but some people seem to embody the emotion to a point where they become rotten to their core.
On the few occasions I have felt jealousy, it’s been something that I’ve been eager to rid myself of, it’s also something that I would never allow to interfere in my treatment towards others.
I’m generally pretty happy for people, if someone obtains money or success I think good luck to them, it’s obviously their path. The same goes with people: I understand that I do not have ownership over anyone other than myself.
If one of my friends gets along with another friend I’ve introduced them to, I think that’s fantastic! If I’m in a romantic relationship with someone, I owe my trust to them, and if I don’t, then I would need to asses whether it’s due to my own insecurities or whether there is a valid reason for the jealousy. If there is a valid reason, then it’s simple, I must end the relationship – my self-worth deserves better than a cheater.
If the jealousy was due to my own insecurities, then I would need to seek professional help in order to overcome them. It is incredibly unfair to place one’s own insecurities on to a partner (or anyone for that matter)!
When you look at the core of jealousy, regardless of which type, it all comes back to the individual experiencing the jealousy – it truly has nothing to do with the other person. And, those who cannot see that are definitely caught up in a ‘victim’ mentality. You know, the whole woe is me, life isn’t fair, why is this happening to me, God is punishing me type of crap.
News flash – YOU are one hundred per cent responsible for your own life! Yes, someone may inflict an injustice on you, but it’s YOUR choice as to whether you allow that to either make or break you!
Those of you who choose to sit in the vile emotion that is jealousy, will never find happiness. Why? Because, you refuse to take ownership and address why you are feeling jealous in the first place.
No, it isn’t always easy to look at yourself and accept that you are less than perfect, but surely that uncomfortableness is better than allowing your misguided bitterness to spread through, not only your own life, but to the lives of the innocent that you choose to deflect upon?
If you find that you are consistently feeling jealous and are unable to show happiness towards others, then might I suggest you put your big girl/boy pants on and take a good hard look at yourself. You can either let the poison spread until it kills your health and happiness, or you can take ownership and kill the poison.
It’s your choice – the buck stops with you!
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